Our time here on Earth can be very difficult at times, in my opinion. This place is filled with obstacles no human can see coming; even if they have knowledge beforehand, it is virtually impossible to know the outcome of life.
It can be surprising to discover that our path is littered with pain that eventually causes internal scarring. Earth seems to be the school of hard knocks when it comes to learning—and unlearning. The learning aspect falls upon us at every turn, and the unlearning is how we lose an aspect of ourselves growing up.
Not everyone dissolves into nothingness. Some rise up and conquer their fears, difficulties, and many overcome what life has dropped into their laps. Internally we all struggle—whether we wish to admit it or not—and these struggles are most likely never discussed with our closest family and friends; even though we could speak up about them, we don’t.
That struggle is what stops us from moving forward in this life, and can stifle future change. We all like to think change happens in the blink of an eye. It doesn’t quite jump out at us. Change takes time and patience, and for many it may never come. When looking at what we have endured during our lives, examine your reactions to every situation that made you cringe.
That wincing was your first flinch at whatever was told to you that you disliked. It might have been spoken in such a way that it left a permanent scar upon you and your soul. With some people it rolls off them like water off a duck’s back. I personally had a tendency to hold things in, and still do.
The one thing I have learned about holding back is how unhealthy it really is. It can cause reactions we really don’t mean. This overloading has transmuted into anger and frustration—all because I felt my voice was not heard. When we are children our voices are usually overlooked unless there is a problem concerning our health and welfare.